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The Blossom Method: Celebrating Hope & the Women of You Never Know

More than 15 amazing writers from around Chicagoland came together this week to share their stories of hope, sorrow and courage as part of The Blossom Method’s You Never Know campaign. Links to their inspiring journeys are below.

If you are experiencing reproductive challenges (infertility, pregnancy loss, genetic complications, complex medical diagnoses, preemies or postpartum depression) on your road to starting or growing your family, you are not alone. Reach out to us at 312.854.0061 or via email at info@blossommethod.com.

Blossom Method: Support For the Newborn Mom, Amina Bennett, Momma Mina

Unexpected Tragedies on My Reproductive Journey: You Never Know, Aviva Cohen, The Blossom Method

You Never Know, Sara Connell, Bringing in Finn

Losing a Twin During Pregnancy: You Never Know, Maura Deptula, Families in the Loop

You Never Know: Grieving the Loss of a Baby, Carrie Goldman, Portrait of an Adoption

When the Bottom Falls Out of Your Birth Plan, TJ Falletti, Chitown Mommy Mayhem

How to Support Friends Through Infertility, Lisa Hanneman, Hannemaniacs

When Your VBAC Goes Wrong, Jasmine Jaffarali, Healthy Jasmine

(Not) Alone in the Crowd, Erin Kuhn-Krueger, Will Carry On

You Never Know: Fertility Challenges and The Blossom Method, Katie O’Conner, Shine Chicago

You Never Know {The Blossom Method}, Samantha Shultz, The Peanuts Gang

You Never Know, Linda Szmulewitz, Chicago New Moms Group

The Blossom Method’s You Never Know Campaign, Dara Tarkowsky, Sharp Mamas

My Infertility Story: It Could Happen to You, Wendy Widom, Cheeky Chicago

You Never Know, Kim Wilschek, Chicago Pregnancy

You Never Know: Our Struggle With Infertility, Sara Youngblood-Ochoa, macaroni kid Chicago

Unexpected Tragedies On My Reproductive Journey: You Never Know

~By Aviva Cohen, LCSW & Co-Founder of The Blossom Method

When I tell people I work with women and couples struggling with infertility, loss, postpartum depression and other tragic scenarios during their reproductive journeys, I almost always get the same questions: How can you do something like that every day? Isn’t it depressing? My response never wavers. Providing support to women and couples is my professional calling and I am inspired by my clients each and every day.

Perhaps part of the reason I’m drawn to this work is because I straddle both worlds. I had my first three children with ease. I wanted to get pregnant, and poof, it happened. My pregnancies were relatively normal and the deliveries easy. Then I rolled the dice again and discovered just how lucky I’d been.

During my eighteenth week of pregnancy, I found out the baby inside of me had died. In an instant, my hopes and dreams for that unborn baby were dashed. I felt blindsided, confused, shocked and terrified. My doctor sent me to specialists, and then washed his hands of me. I was no longer a patient he wanted to treat. During this vulnerable time, I became lost in a maze of hospitals, doctors and nurses. I felt afraid and very much alone.

In my mind, I decided that if I got pregnant again before my due date, the pain deep inside of me would disappear. I quickly conceived again, but this time, at my nine-week checkup, the baby had no heartbeat. That was it for me. I had nowhere to go, no one to talk to, and no one who understood how I felt. When I tried to talk about the loss with friends or family, they told […]

There Must Be Something Wrong With Me

It’s the right time in your life to get pregnant.  You have found the partner of your dreams, your job is secure, you are in the best shape of your life, and  frankly, you have run out of excuses! It is now or never. Then it happens-maybe quicker or slower than you had expected. That nice pink line or positive sign-depending on which test you bought-and how many times you took it to confirm your suspicions. You guys did it! You are a smashing success-now you are pregnant!
You are so excited you don’t know how you will keep this secret until you are out of the first trimester, but you do! You tell your sister, best friend, and Mom, but even you have your limits! OK-you tell your friend at work too because she can tell immediately that you are not yourself. You go to the doctor and all signs are great. Pregnancy looks good-you are on your way! The coast is clear and you start screaming it from the rooftops! The secret is out-you are going to have a baby!

Then-the world as you know it changes forever…your water breaks at 19 weeks, tests show your baby is incompatible with life, one doctor visit there is no heartbeat-whatever the circumstances of your loss-you are experiencing one and there is nothing you can do to change it. You wish you could rewind the clock-noticed a problem-called the doctor and told him/her about it. How could this be happening? It never happened to any of my friends. Why me? It is just not fair.

The truth is-shame on your friends and everyone you know. Loss is as much a part and possibility of pregnancy as lice is […]