With the struggle that many women have to go through in order to conceive a baby, even more devastating than that can be pregnancy loss. Losing a pregnancy can cause feelings of depression, inadequacy, despair and anxiety—you may find yourself wondering if you’ll be able to get pregnant again, and if you do, how long you’ll have to worry about a repeated loss. Coping with this type of loss can be very difficult and are too often internalized. These complex situations can lead to feeling overstressed, which can cause its own host of problems.

While coping with hardships such as infertility, the loss of a pregnancy or stillbirth can be very tough, it’s important to remember you are not alone. Infertility support groups and pregnancy loss counseling can help you get through the hard times and move onward to keep trying for pregnancy and growing your family.

Feelings You May Experience After a Loss

There are a range of different feelings you may experience after losing a pregnancy. Anger or resentment, particularly toward your body for “betraying” you, is extremely common, as is feeling guilty, as if the cause of losing the pregnancy was something you did that could have been prevented. If you become pregnant again, there are other issues you may experience, such as not trusting the pregnancy to carry to term, or being afraid to bond or become attached to your child until you are certain the pregnancy is viable through the end.

These emotions can drain the joy out of your life and make you feel hopeless and depressed, unable to get through the day at times. Again, it’s essential to know that you are not alone and that there are loss support groups you may turn to for understanding, empathy and counseling during this trying time.

Where to Turn for Support

If you need help with finding support after a pregnancy loss, contacting a doctor or midwife can be a good first step—they can help match you to an appropriate support group or counselor in your area. Different counselors may take different approaches toward the coping process, so you can explore different groups or options if you want. Grief is normal, and many people in your life may make themselves accessible for help, but friends and family may move on more quickly, leaving you feeling isolated.

The Stigma of Pregnancy Loss and Counseling

In these times, support groups are practically indispensible. Contacting a grief counselor or family therapist who specializes in issues related to pregnancy, infertility and loss of pregnancy can help you find your way toward recovery, toward feeling like yourself again.

All too often, the families, especially the potential mothers who suffer the most emotional burden in these times, feel shame and embarrassment. These isolating feelings can be harmful to the family unit and to the health of each of the potential parents.  It is important to overcome those natural feelings, forget about the stigma, and talk to people who can help you work through your grief. Don’t feel reluctant or embarrassed—these therapists are prepared and professionally trained to know how to help you when you most need them.

If you need help coping with the loss of a pregnancy, the Blossom Method offers counseling for complicated pregnancies, fertility and loss—click here  for more information about how we can help you.