At the Blossom Method, one of our areas of care revolves around helping women and couples who experience the loss of a pregnancy or multiple pregnancies. In this story, read about one of our patients’ experiences and how she was able to find comfort in support groups and renew her hope for starting a family.

A Mother’s Journey Through Pregnancy and Loss

My life is marked by a series of dates. I am a numbers person and dates always stick out in my head. On March 3, 2012 I went off birth control. It was my husband’s 29th birthday, and we wanted to have a family. We tried month after month, and on September 30th, we found out we were pregnant. We were so excited, but we knew anything could happen. I was well aware I could miscarry—my mother had two miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy so I knew it could happen to me. On October 31, 2012, my baby was nine weeks and we heard the heartbeat. Three weeks later, Thanksgiving weekend, I was the magical 12 weeks and the grandparents were finally able to shout it from the rooftops. On January 18, 2013, we found out our baby was a boy—we named him Jack.

The Tragedy of an Unexpected Loss

On February 17th, at 24 weeks and 2 days, I started having contractions and experiencing heavy bleeding in the middle of the night. I turned to my husband and said, “We need to go to the hospital, something is not right.” In triage, my water broke. I will never forget the look on the RN’s face and the resident on call saying, “I’m sorry.” We didn’t get it. Jack still had a heartbeat, though. We learned that I would most likely have to deliver within the week. Since Jack was past the 24-week mark, he was considered viable. On February 20, 2013 the contractions started again and I would deliver at 24 weeks and 5 days. The course of labor was too much and we lost him during labor. We were and still are devastated. Losing a child, one that never even breathed is extremely hard to comprehend. We never held Jack, but he is forever in our hearts. Fortunately we knew we could get pregnant again and it happened quickly.  We found out on May 5, 2013 that I was pregnant again! We told our moms a few days later on Mother’s Day.

Support for Coping with Another Pregnancy Loss

On June 20, 2013, we went in for our 9-week appointment and the US tech told us there was no heartbeat. The hole in my heart got even larger. We needed a break—a break from babies and pregnancy. I needed the Blossom Method. We formed a support group. Without my newfound friends in the support group I would not be where I am today. Meeting monthly, both with Aviva and on our own, we shared experiences and coping mechanisms to move forward. Some of these girls are now my closest friends.

My husband and I ended 2013, our worst year yet, hoping for a better 2014.

Pregnancy: A New Beginning

On January 1st, 2014, I invited my husband into the bathroom as I took that all-too-familiar pregnancy test. It was positive. The last few days of December, I had a feeling I was pregnant but did not want to associate this pregnancy with 2013, so held off on taking a test. This pregnancy had to be different. I changed my care plan to the maternal fetal medicine group at Northwestern. I went to near-weekly appointments to monitor my baby. Starting at 16 weeks, I had weekly progesterone injections to prevent preterm labor. I had a cerclage placed to support suspected cervical incompetency. This time, we were having a girl.

Week after week, her heart kept beating. We were getting closer. I was induced on September 9, 2014, at 40.2 weeks and our rainbow baby arrived. Her name is Isabelle Rose. She is the light of our lives and we are still in awe that we made her. Not a day goes by that I do not think about Jack, but I have come out much stronger with a greater appreciation for life.

Finding the Right Support Coping with Pregnancy Loss

At the Blossom Method, our goal is to help people cope with tragedy and difficult life experiences that they never hoped to have to go through. We specialize in one-on-one and couples counseling, and group support therapy. When you’re going through a hard life event like a pregnancy loss, or are having trouble conceiving, or have any other problems related to starting your family and need help, contact the Blossom Method for pregnancy loss counseling services to get you through this difficult time.