Fertility issues: it’s something that is more common than you may think, but something that people often don’t talk about for fear of over-sharing, or appearing vulnerable or “broken.” The double-edged sword of this complex situation, though, is that often, people find it helpful to share their experiences with fertility complications, to discuss their struggles with people who have gone through similar issues. Coping with fertility issues isn’t something you have to do on your own. Here at the Blossom Method, we have a few tips for people who are trying to cope with infertility that can help make things easier on you.

Spend Time on Non-Pregnancy Activities

It’s easy to get wrapped up in baby-related activities. Whether you have friends or family members having babies, or you keep getting invited to baby showers and just need a break, remember that it’s okay to decline an invite if you don’t feel comfortable to attend. Struggles with infertility can feel magnified when you have to spend time with people who had no trouble conceiving, so don’t feel bad if you need to sit some parties or gatherings out.

It’s important to also spend time doing things you like, rather than devoting all of your free time to things like researching ways to get pregnant or stressing out by Googling all the potential things that you think could be keeping you from conceiving. Take time to take care of yourself and enjoy your hobbies; pursue your interests—though it’s easier said than done, trying to get your mind off of the problems can help a bit.

Get Infertility Support from Friends, Family and Counselors

This may seem like a no-brainer, but it can help to open up to those around you. Letting people know about how you’re feeling or what you’re going through can make a big difference—when people know what you’re dealing with, they may have their own stories to share, or they might be more supportive than they could be if they didn’t know.

  • Professional therapists can help as well, as can attending support groups for those who are struggling with fertility issues.
  • It can be very beneficial to talk with other couples who are dealing with the same issues you are, if only to have someone to relate to and share experiences.
  • Join a support group of like-minded people—you might be surprised at how much it can help.

Be Optimistic, Yet Realistic About Your Fertility Situation

While keeping a positive attitude is good advice for life in general, when facing fertility complications, it’s also important to stay realistic. With your partner, come up with a plan for how long you’ll spend trying one method before moving onto the next, and decide how much money you’re willing to spend pursuing having a family. These aren’t comfortable questions, but they can be helpful to at least have a base to work with. This way, you can have at least some format of a timeline for when to try something new.

Dealing with infertility or struggling to conceive can take a toll on your mental and emotional health—remember to approach these issues carefully, and know that it’s okay to seek help if you need it. Contact the Blossom Method today if you’re looking for counselors to support with fertility issues – we specialize in these types of problems, and will work with you to find the best method of support.